BOKEE错乱了好几天登陆不了，难得一年一次的生日都过去一周多了，乘着现在能登，记录一下。

今年生日不幸在感冒中度过，生日前几个小时开始发烧，睡了一晚总算体温回复正常。

早上打开手机、QQ，收到祝福短信若干（感谢青，老哥，亲爱的小螃蟹弟弟，yondi，还有班上三四个小孩），乐呵半天，顿时觉得全身充满力量

当天安排考试。坐公车到北门居然不见摩的，怕走路来不及只好又打车到金山转公车，昏死。

到了学校下车飞速步行300米到教学楼，哼哧哼哧爬到五楼拿卷子，下楼在教室附近碰到特地带礼物过来的亲爱的淑燕小朋友，what a happy surprise~

到了教室，热得跟蒸笼有一拼，听力录音还出问题，忙忙碌碌发完考卷，满怀憧憬地拆开礼物，是一本刀刀漫画，感谢淑燕在书本后写下的那些长长的文字，很温馨也很贴心：）

上完课回家，因为生病的缘故，当天晚上就在家了无生趣得度过……

What a day！唉，要是能重新过一次就好了

很久没拍照了，手生，用50mm的标头居然很多拍糊了；

有几张特别满意的，因为技术有限没有后期PS过，加边框

pic 1:最满意的一张，白马路的破旧小巷，温柔的眼神，冬天下午三点半的阳光正好

pic 2: 芍园一号的走廊，有一点过曝了，但是很喜欢这张的眼神

pic 3:抓拍到一个自然的表情（可是我边拿相机边唱歌的结果，容易吗我- -！）；这个小朋友的照片很多都糊了，总结是她太白，一不小心加点EV就过曝

pic 4:大家合影的拼接图，终于看到我出镜了吧，哈哈

    PP是我进大学第一天就认识的朋友。记得第一次见面是在集中时，她刚巧排在我的前面，瘦高个，男孩子一样的短发，红扑扑的苹果脸，腼腆的样子。

    PP的外号，说来与我有些渊源。记得上某堂课学了一个成语“骨瘦如柴”（as thin as a rake），用来形容PP再贴切不过，谈笑间可怜的PP就得了这么一个琅琅上口的外号，广为流传。

    有关PP的回忆很多，一起自习，一起去食堂吃饭，偶尔到学生街乱晃，大一的时候一起演英文小品。PP同学是我见过的最怕冷耐热的孩子，初入冬就穿得像个粽子，别人穿一件毛衣的时候她可能已经N件毛衣加毛裤上身了，所幸她瘦，穿那么多却也不显臃肿。PP同时也是我见过的最善良的孩子，脾气极好，别人找她帮忙时基本来者不拒。最经典的故事之一是有一次外班本不相熟的同学因为不想去上校选课，又怕被老师点到，居然登门请PP替她上课，PP虽面露难色，却也应承下来。大学本科时，PP和我不在一个宿舍，但我时常跑到她们宿舍烦她，讲讲最近又看了什么电影。有段时间发神经，还天天在她跟前唱戴佩妮的《怎样》，生生毁了PP对这首歌的印象，以至后来去K歌我再点到这首歌，她仍心有余悸。临近毕业，PP出人意料地报考了同校另一个专业的研究生。准备考研的日子刚巧冬天，宿舍11点就熄灯了，大家搬了椅子坐到靠近大门的走廊看书。破旧的宿舍四处漏风，走廊灯光昏暗，且不时有晚间洗漱的人来回走动，很难说这样的环境看书真有什么效果，可能更多只是为了寻求心理安慰罢了，反正我们俩总是最早爬回宿舍睡觉的几个之一。

    研究生的时候，虽然不在同一个专业，却刚巧是上下层，交流倒也方便，常常跑到阳台隔层喊话。研究生时候的PP，头发留长了，穿起裙子，形象与本科时候相比，产生了翻天覆地的变化。突然发现，PP同学其实有一双温柔明亮的眼睛，清秀而耐看。我们两个在人际交往上可能都算疏懒的人（尤其是我），由于专业不同，又各有各的事，联系渐少；但有一种朋友，是即使久未联络见面时却仍能感觉温暖而亲切的。一直觉得，PP就是一个像小绵羊一样的女生，让人感到安静和踏实。研究生时期再到工作以来，我们两人的生活中都发生了很多事。偶尔见几次面，聊聊心里话，互相安慰彼此那些为爱受过的伤，同时明白了骑白马的不一定是王子还可能是唐僧，憧憬美好未来的同时又对现实中的种种矛盾感到困扰，一起做过单身主义者的梦，在对方失落迷茫时给予支持和鼓励。种种种种，也许就是友谊。

    有时候觉得，自己身上有很多地方跟PP类似，我们一样心地善良（当然PP同学比我更善良），一样在很多方面缺乏勇气和魄力，一样在很多时候优柔寡断，一样在面临纷繁复杂的矛盾时产生鸵鸟心态，一样面对生活的某些面既悲观又乐观。

    一直觉得，像PP这样善良又美好的女子，只有一位又绅士又体贴又温柔又有包容心责任感的好男人才配的上她。那么，这位MR. RIGHT一定也会在将来的某个时刻，不早不晚地出现。那么，在他出现之前，let's party，好好生活，善待自己！

Tips for wedding photography, inspiring and useful~

Wedding Photography Timeline - Tips and Advice

by Josh Root

Wedding photography is an art. To master it requires being familiar with the minor details, procedures and traditions that are tied up into this special day. This sample timeline outlines a series of steps a professional photographer might experience as well as typical responses and preparations needed to carry out a wedding to completion. Every wedding is different, and chances are slim that you will ever see a wedding process that goes exactly like this. For beginning wedding photographers, this article may provide useful information and give an overall glimpse into the timing for photographing a wedding.

Note: This is one perspective of the timeline for a wedding and mainly focuses on an American-style Christian wedding ceremony and traditions. We invite you to share your own timeline at the end of the article.

4-12 months prior to the wedding date

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• Initial contact with Bride and Groom (noted as B/G from here forward) via phone or email.
• Meet in person with B/G. Show portfolio, provide price sheet and other printed promotional materials and discuss rates/packages/contract.
• Receive signed contract and retainer which can be anywhere from 20 to 50% to hold the date.
• Discuss wedding with B/G and gather initial information about times, locations, number of bridal party members, etc. Help the couple be realistic with timing especially with regards to how many family photographs they require.

1 month prior to the wedding date

• Contact B/G by phone, email or in person. At this point you will want to go over the timeline; double check the information you gathered previously; be clear about the priorities, details, times and locations and formal family photographs. Make sure you know if there are any divorces and how those photos will be handled with regards to step-parents/siblings etc. Whenever possible get the information in writing.

1 week prior to the wedding date

• Contact B/G to once again confirm all info.
• Get emergency phone numbers.

1 day prior to the wedding date

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• Charge all camera/flash batteries and make sure you have more than enough batteries on hand.
• Format all memory cards.
• Remove dust from camera body imaging sensors.
• Clean lens elements.
• Pack camera bags/cases with all needed gear.
• Review all your information that you have (hopefully written).
• Make sure you have accurate directions (if needed), contract and any written information about the details, group shots, etc. packed in your bag.
• Get a good nights sleep.

Wedding day, 2-5 hours before the ceremony

• Eat something, you may not get a chance later.
• Pack all gear into car. Double check to see that batteries and memory cards are there.
• Map and directions on hand if needed, and/or your GPS is ready to go.
• If this is not a local wedding, make sure you have budgeted enough travel time.

Wedding day, 1-3 hours before ceremony

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• Images of Bride/Bridesmaids getting ready. Makeup, hair, etc.
• Images of Groom/Groomsmen getting ready. Ties, cufflinks, making a toast, etc. if time allows.
• Images of Mother of Bride (MOB) attaching veil, zipping up bride's dress, etc.
• Images of decorations being put up.
• Images of guests arriving.
• Formal portraits (see dedicated section below) if doing these prior to the ceremony. If not doing these formal family photographs prior to the ceremony, this is a good time to do the Bridal Portraits while she's fresh. Also, if possible, take portraits of the Bridesmaids with Bride and perhaps family with bride, which will save time later after the ceremony.

Wedding Day, last hour before ceremony

• Images of guests arriving.
• Prayers with family or minister.
• Last minute hugs, tears, toasts or prayers with bridesmaids/groomsmen/parents.
• Guests being seated.
• If there is time and ceremony is at a venue rather than a church - this might be a good time to get photos of the tent, reception room, flowers, decorated tables and other details.

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The Ceremony, processional

• Parents and Grandparents.
• Groom and Groomsman usually arriving from side door or Bridesmaid/Groomsman pairs.
• Bridesmaids, if not in pairs above.
• Maid of honor, if not in pair above.
• Ringbearer and/or Flower Girl.
• Bride and her father (traditionally).

The eremony, giving away of the Bride

• Bride and father reach the altar and Minister addresses Father of Bride.
• Father of Bride answers (sometimes both Father and Mother answer) and "gives" bride to Groom, typically hugs daughter and shakes Groom's hand.
• Father of Bride leaves to sit with family.

The Ceremony

• Minister talks to everyone (B/G typically facing minister, away from guests).
• Minister addresses B/G.
• B/G recite vows (B/G turn and face each other).
• B/G exchange rings.
• Minister addresses everyone, issues pronouncement.
• B/G kiss.
• Minister presents "Mr & Mrs..." (B/G turn to face audience).

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The Ceremony, popular additions to above

• Minister leads prayer (B/G typically facing minister).
• B/G acknowledge parents/grandparents, walk down to hug or shake hands.
• Mothers of B/G light candles, then B/G use those candles to light central unity candle (hard to photograph, may be facing away from audience at all times).
• Minister may lead closing prayer after vows but before pronouncement (B/G facing each other).

The Ceremony, recessional

• B/G walk back down aisle first, usually fairly quickly.
• Bridesmaids/Groomsmen in reverse order of processional.
• Minister.
• Parents, Grandparents, family, and honored guests.
• B/G may return and greet/release guests row by row, though this is less common than it once was.

The Ceremony, afterwards

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• Bridal party will be hugging, high-fiveing, and crying wherever they all stopped after recessional (excellent candid photo opportunity).
• Guests will swarm around B/G and congratulate them.
• Possible receiving line, B/G greet each guest as they exit the church.
• B/G signing wedding license with minister and witnesses (typically best man & maid of honor).

Formal Portraits (basic groupings for example purposes)

If doing the formal photos after the ceremony it is a good idea to do the largest groups first as well as the Bride's family first so they can host the beginning of the reception as soon as possible. Also, if there are very young children in the formal family photographs, it is wise also to get these done right away as children will tend to get cranky and restless. Here is a typical order for family and wedding party shots after the ceremony. Not all couples want as many as listed here, but this could be considered a "traditional" list. No matter the number of groupings, it is wise to let couples know they should plan 5 minutes per photograph to make sure you have enough time to fit everything in without stress.

• Bride's side
  • Couple with Bride's parents, grandparents, siblings, spouses and children
  • Couple with Bride's parents (also step combinations if required)
  • Couple with Bride's Grandparents
  • Bride with Siblings
  • Bride with Parents
  • Bride with Mother
  • Bride with Father
  • Bride with Grandparent(s)
  

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• Groom's Side
  • Couple with Groom's parents, grandparents, siblings, spouses and children
  • Couple with Groom's parents (Also step combinations if required)
  • Couple with Groom's Grandparents
  • Groom with Siblings
  • Groom with Parents
  • Groom with Mother
  • Groom with Father
  • Groom with Grandparent(s)
• Wedding Party
  • Entire Wedding party with Couple
  • Bridesmaids with Bride
  • Groom with Groomsmen
  • Bride with Maid of Honor
  • Groom with Best Man
  

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• Possible Additions
  • Bride with flower girls
  • Groom with Ring Bearer
  • Bride with each Bridesmaid
  • Groom with each Groomsman
  • Bride with Groomsmen
  • Groom with Bridesmaids
  • Groom with Ushers
  • Couple with readers
  • Couple with Officiant

Reception, B/G announcement and entrance

• DJ will announce B/G.
• B/G enter room to applause.
• Rest of wedding party enters room.
• Wedding party sits down at head table.

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Reception, meal (buffet for this example)

This is where it is extremely helpful to get the timeline from the couples. Some receptions start with the couple being announced into the room and then they do their first dance. Some start with a welcome toast from Dad followed by the Best Man and Maid of Honor Toast, then a blessing and then the buffet or dinner. Others may have scheduled the toasts after dinner before or after the cake cutting. The first dance can happen between courses or before or after the cake cutting.

• B/G go through buffet line.
• Wedding party and family go through buffet line.
• Rest of guests go through buffet line.
• Everyone eats.
• B/G finish first and walk around greeting tables.

Reception, toastsand speeches

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• Best man gives speech, toast.
• Maid of Honor gives speech, toast.
• Father of the Bride, toast.
• Father of the Groom, toast.
• Other family members, toast.

Reception, cake cutting

• B/G hold knife together and cut a piece of cake.
• B/G feed each other cake.
• B/G mash cake in each other's face (optional).
• B/G kiss.

Reception, first dances

• B/G dance.
• Bride and father dance.
• Groom and mother dance.
• DJ calls wedding party onto dance floor.
• (alternate) DJ calls all married couples onto dance floor.
• Everyone invited to dance.

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Reception, bouquet and garter toss

• DJ calls single girls to get in group.
• Blindfolded or with back to girls, bride throws bouquet.
• Girl catches bouquet, everyone cheers and claps.
• DJ calls all single guys to get in group.
• Bride is given chair and sits down.
• Groom reaches up bride's dress and retrieves garter.
• Blindfolded or with back to guys, groom throws garter.
• Guy catches garter, everyone cheers and claps.
• Dancing begins again, continues until end of reception.

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Reception, other events going on during above.

• B/G visiting with guests.
• Children dancing.
• Grandparents dancing.
• Groom and other men smoking cigars.
• Parents of B/G sharing stories.
• Additional drinking and toasts.

Wedding day, arriving home

• Download memory cards to computer.
• Burn backup CD/DVD.

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Week/month after wedding day

• Identify good photos.
• Sort photos into like groups (ceremony, reception, formals, etc.).
• Process images as per personal style or B/G request.

• Burn DVD/CD of finished images.
• Deliver proof images to B/G.
• Accept and send reprint and/or album orders.
• Congratulate self on job well done.

Note: this is one perspective of the timing for photographing a wedding. We invite you to share your own experiences and timelines below.

那天收到Y的qq留言，半夜十二点发的，说是看了我写给瑞的文章哭了。
没有回，了解她的心情，思来想去，却不知如何回复。
一些共同的情绪，就当是一种默契，放在心里吧。
第二篇文章，就写给Y。

大学时候的Y，由于身高优势，很有大姐大气势的一个人，其实不过比我大了两个月。Y很认真，成绩很好。想当年每周两节的英美概况课程，学识渊博的professor在讲台上用英文滔滔不绝，口若悬河，我们台下的学生或茫然或者手忙脚乱记笔记，恨不得找蜘蛛精多借几双手来，却又不果；最后全宿舍甚至还有慕名而来的其他班的同学，都是仰仗这位姐姐的笔记应对期末考试。

临近毕业，Y放弃了留校的机会，记得当时她说不喜欢一成不变的学校生活，只身一人前往广州闯荡。身处两地，联系时断时续，而后再联系上，她已为爱去了北京。关于Y在异乡的生活，了解不多，只知道后来辞了既有的工作，一直在寻找新的位置。寻觅的过程总显得漫长而让人不安，远离故乡、亲人，太大的城市总会加重身处其中的个体的渺小感，惶恐和孤寂接踵而来。后来某一天，接到她的电话，说想要回来了，想要安定的生活。Y不忍男方为了他放弃工作，而她也许也无法继续在他乡的漂泊了。面包还是爱情，我们常常需要在两者作出抉择；而面对现实时，爱情也往往脆弱得不堪一击。

告别了爱情的Y回来了。虽然表面上仍有些大大咧咧，间隙却能在她脸上看到几分失落。外表坚强的女生，只不过不想让人发现内心的脆弱而已。年前，Y如愿找到了一份满意的学校工作，一切步入正轨，生活忙碌却也充实。

年少的时候，我们心里总是装着无数的梦想，想要仗剑天涯，想要闯荡江湖，想要四处冒险打拼；但是梦想和现实终有差距。经历了挫折走过了弯路，渐渐，每个人的愿望都回归了质朴：但使岁月静好。

第一篇写给R，是因为昨晚吃饭刚好提到她。

PP说R和她交往了半年的男朋友分手了。讲到原因，说是男方觉得她太文静，出去玩放不开等等等等。PP感叹，为何像R这样的好女生却碰不到一个爱她的好男人。听到这未免想到一句话：当一个男人不再爱一个女人，她哭闹是错，静默也是错，活着呼吸是错，死了还是错。总之无论何种原因，不过都是拿来搪塞的借口罢了。不爱自己的男人，不要也罢；所以，还是替R小姐高兴，因为还有更多的机会遇见MR. RIGHT，尽管这个期间可能有些漫长，并且无可避免地需要忍受一些小孤独小感伤，但总是充满无限希望无限可能的。

还记得大学期间的R，说话、行动带着几分慵懒，无论做什么都不紧不慢；脾气好，爱笑，一笑脸上就浮现两个浅浅的酒窝。自大学起，她就是一个很有生活情趣的女生。记得一次宿舍大家心血来潮要借我家厨房做菜吃，期间几道菜都是她掌勺，其余人等则偶尔打打下手，或者在客厅看电视玩耍。等到饭菜做好，她一声招呼之下，大家一拥而入厨房，惊讶并且无限崇拜地看着她端出卤鸡爪等等高难度的菜品。

毕业后，难得见面，偶尔听到关于她的消息：一个人在外租房子，闲时不忘给自己煲一锅汤，逛逛街，上上课，还考了研究生；每月不知不觉月光，却也不以为意，仍然开开心心云云。听到这些关于她的消息，总会会心一笑。R还是那个R。会生活，善待自己，随心所欲无拘无束。总是坚信，懂得爱自己的人才会更好的爱别人。如果暂时没有遇见Mr. Right，那么就快乐地享受单身的每一天，没必要因为世俗妥协将就，因为生活是自己的生活。

时光如梭，一晃毕业几年。工作之后，接触了各种各样的人，越能体会在校时那些友谊的难得。即便联络渐少，总有一些些人一些朋友是无论何时何地想起都能让人感觉温暖亲切，因为生命中那段最为美好的青葱岁月，是由他们陪伴走过。那些打闹、欢笑、离别、感伤，种种纯真可爱的情感，就如一去不复返的青春，渐行渐远，却又历历在目。

悠悠记得当天笑，仿佛入迷，又带一点惘。

种种喜悦，让人为你鼓掌。

眉飞色舞千千样，你是个妙人，是个少年狂。

《那些花儿》——送给飘散天涯的你们。

Home is where the heart is.

VERSION 1: 此心安处是吾乡。

VERSION 2: 吾心安处是故乡。

VERSION 3: 心之所安即是家。